Giving a wedding speech is one of those rare moments that will live on in your memory—and quite possibly in a wedding video—forever. Whether you're the best man, maid of honor, or a proud parent, the pressure can feel overwhelming. But it doesn’t have to be.

The key to a great wedding speech isn’t just what you say, but how you deliver it. If you’re feeling a bit anxious, you’re not alone. In fact, even seasoned public speakers feel a bit of a flutter before stepping up to the mic. The good news? You can calm those nerves and deliver a speech that’s heartfelt, memorable, and yes, even fun.

Here are 5 simple yet effective ways to settle your nerves before delivering your wedding speech.

1. Breathe Deeply and Pause

It sounds almost too simple, but taking a few deep breaths can make a world of difference. Nervousness causes shallow breathing, which can increase anxiety. Before you start your speech (and even during, if needed), take a slow, deep breath. Hold it for a moment, then exhale. Repeat this a few times.

This technique helps you re-focus, slow down your heart rate, and clear your mind. Plus, taking a moment to pause before you speak gives you the chance to center yourself—and ensures the audience is ready to listen.

2. Practice Makes (Almost) Perfect

Preparation is your best friend. The more familiar you are with your speech, the more confident you’ll feel delivering it. Practice out loud in front of a mirror or, better yet, in front of a trusted friend. You don’t need to memorize every word, but you should be comfortable with the flow and key points.

During practice, simulate the real event—stand up, hold a glass, and imagine the audience in front of you. The more you practice, the more natural it will feel when the big moment comes.

3. Focus on Connection, Not Perfection

Remember, the goal of your speech isn’t to be perfect—it’s to connect with the couple and the audience. Focus on sharing your love, support, and excitement for the newlyweds. If you stumble on a word or lose your place, don’t panic! Your audience isn’t expecting a flawless performance, they’re there to enjoy the sentiment behind your words.

It’s okay to pause, regroup, and even laugh at yourself if something goes awry. Authenticity goes a long way, and a little imperfection can make your speech feel even more genuine.

4. Channel Your Nervous Energy into Excitement

Nervousness and excitement are closely related. Instead of fighting your jitters, reframe them. When those butterflies kick in, remind yourself that this is a celebration! You’ve been chosen to speak because you mean something to the couple.

Channel that nervous energy into excitement for the couple’s big day. Smile, take a breath, and let yourself be present in the moment. Transforming your nerves into enthusiasm can make your speech more dynamic and engaging.

5. Break the Ice with Humor (or a Thoughtful Story)

A great way to ease your nerves is by starting your speech with humor or a relatable anecdote. A light joke or heartfelt story sets the tone and allows you to relax as the audience responds.

Just make sure your opening is appropriate for the occasion. A well-timed laugh or a meaningful story creates a warm, inviting atmosphere, helping both you and your audience feel at ease..